Last week’s video blog continued our conversation about low self-esteem, addressing the possibility that we may be unintentionally contributing to it. When we talk about our students’ or kids’ weaknesses and learning differences in front of them, it can be much more damaging than we realize. Obviously these conversations aren’t intended to hurt them, but once our kids have heard our words, they can’t “unhear” them. They may begin to believe that they are different or stupid, or that something is wrong with them. Our words have the power to seriously affect our kids’ self-esteem—for better or for worse.

In response to this awareness, we shouldn’t react by choosing to ignore or avoid these conversations. Recognizing the differences is necessary in order to discover the best ways of meeting the needs. However, we do need to be intentional about when and where we are having these discussions. This intentional change could make the difference between an in-tact or damaged self-esteem.